Present over Perfect

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Christmas is less than a week away. Are you ready?

I hear this almost daily. And the truth is, I’m not ready. Gifts are not all purchased, cards are not addressed, and cookies are not baked.

And I’m okay with that.

It’s been coming on for a while, I suppose. At Thanksgiving, I amazed myself by using disposable plates so we would have more family time instead of doing dishes. Nikki had just returned the night before from 11 months of ministry on The World Race & I didn’t want to miss a minute with her. The difference did not go unnoticed. We ALL were relaxed and enjoying each other’s company. I chose to be present with the family over having a perfect table. Present over perfect.

As the days fly by, choose to be present over perfect this holiday season. For some of us, that is extra difficult. We want to appear perfect at this festive time – the perfectly trimmed tree, beautiful greeting cards and lovely decorations…. when in reality, that often just produces days filled with empty busy-ness and neglected families.

We are so caught up in the appearance of a happy holiday, we forget what it means to be present.

We believe the lies that

1) EVERYTHING is important. (Truth: You get to dictate what’s important.)

2) My possessions are adding value. (Truth: most likely, your possessions weigh you down.)

3) If I’m busy, I’m important. (Truth: If you’re busy, you’re making yourself unavailable.)

4) Achievements will bring me fulfillment. (Truth: God has already spoken fulfillment over you.)

5) I don’t have a choice. (Truth: It’s OK to say NO.)

6) I am needed. (Truth: The situation will be just fine without you.)

7) Quietness is laziness. (Truth: Quietness is necessary.)

Yes, Christmas is 4 days away. And I’m not ready.

As I write this, I’m sitting with a loved one in the hospital. Present over perfect.

My Christmas cards will most likely be mailed on December 26th (or later), because I want to enjoy my family to the fullest. Present over perfect.

Not a single gift is wrapped and under the tree. This will surely be a gift card year. Present over perfect.

Let go of your need to be perfect & see how it frees you. You may cringe a little (I know I have), but you will not regret being Present over appearingĀ Perfect.

And it will be okay.

(7 lies introduced by Joshua Becker of the Becoming Minimalist blog, as told to me by an attendee of Storyline Conference 2014 Chicago)

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Tami Romani left her job as a syndicated radio producer nearly three decades ago to raise her family and hone her voiceover craft. She never looked back. Her joy of telling stories through a microphone has kept her happily busy ever since, and she has now added the title of Brand Voice Strategist to her resume, helping folks unlock their authentic voice and be heard in a very noisy world. In her free time, Tami loves to network and write, helps her husband promote his construction company, and pretends to offer helpful advice to her adult kids. Her personal website is www.tamiromani.com