I am not known for moderation.
Ask anyone who knows me well.
I am an all in or all out type, and it takes a lot of determination for me to balance that. I have worked at it all my life. In a lot of ways this has worked well for me. When I commit to doing something, I do it wilth all I’ve got and do it well. When I have a clear goal, I stick with it and see it through. Nothing can stop me.
However, to be candid, I am really terrible at this with the things that count most. Let’s take my fitness for example. I am intelligent enough to know that my good health is the key to everything else – that I will only be happy and successful and have good relationships if I am in good health. So why do I get into shape and feel great only to slide back down the hill again gradually? I’m either hot or cold. This works for some things in life, but when it comes to proper health habits, it is like a rollercoaster ride. Once I left college and didn’t have a workout schedule set by a coach, I set off to do things my way. Somehow I felt that I could defy the laws of science and be the one who could eat what I wanted to, exercise now and then, and still stay in the same shape I was in. The highest and most twisted form of narcissism, yes? So, for 20 years I have done this up and down thing. (Anyone else out there feel this way?) Then would come the self-loathing and beating myself up. How could I be so intelligent and so stupid at the same time? And on, and on, and on….the cycle.
It’s time to stop. And finally I figured out how. I am a work in progress, but my philosophy is changing on a daily basis. I am finally learning to enjoy the journey.
ONE day at a time. ONE task at a time. ONE step at a time.
Near the end of 2014 I got my hands on a book called “The Slight Edge” by Jeff Olson. This book is changing every area of my life. I am in my second read, and I would recommend it to anyone and everyone. If you are anything like me, AND want to change, then this book is for you. GET IT NOW.
The book can basically be summed up by this. So simple. So profound. For some reason, so hard for me to grasp, but by George I think I’ve got it. And, truly a biblical principle.
“Simple daily disciplines – little productive actions, repeated consistently over time – add up to the difference between failure and success. The slight edge is relentless and cuts both ways: simple daily disciplines or simple errors in judgment, repeated consistently over time, make or break you.”
This is not rocket science! It’s not like I didn’t “know” this. But, for some reason, reading the words makes an imprint on the brain and forces you to make a choice. The little things we do every day that are insignificant at the time, add up. It is the philosophy that must be changed. Doing things in large spurts may appear to work, or even work for a time, but in the long-run they do not. It’s just a cycle of highs and lows.
SO, for me, gone are the days of the New Year’s “I’m going to get in better shape” Resolutions that fizzle out. My resolution this year is to change my lifestyle by changing my philosophy. By setting small daily goals rather than high mighty goals for the future. I know that if I do the small seemingly insignificant things every day, that over time I will both end up where I want to be in health, career and life, AND will have learned the value of continuing those habits to remain on the path of my choosing.
My word for 2016 is CONSISTENCY. You are welcome to use this word too if you like. HA. 😉
Whatever your goals for this year and beyond, I wish you the very best! And whatever they are, if you feel stagnant in any way, I promise that if you will get the “Slight Edge” and read it – you WILL begin to move in the direction you want to go.
Here’s to a New Year and a New You!